Well, not angry today, or most days. But I have been angry before. Have you?
Anger is natural, it is a natural human emotion.
The problem with anger happens when it has no outlet, no escape. We all get angry. Don’t feel bad for having negative emotions. It’s NORMAL. When we feel bad about feeling negative, we literally FEED that feeling and make it stronger.
When a negative feeling arises, embrace it, look at it, see if there is a story around it that needs attention, address it whole heartedly, and let it go. Don’t hold onto anger…
I yelled at someone the other day (Oops! My bad :) It felt so good though (it came out from being fed up with a situation and not getting anywhere by way of a more acceptable and preferable means of communication, like discussing… wasn’t happening and I’m not into wasting soooo much time). Anyhow, something needed to be said. And no, not very cool (I apologized), but the good news? It worked. Changes are occurring as a result of my self expression. It was a magical release. Now I am not encouraging you to yell at others (and it doesn’t matter to me what anyone thinks, I have a good head on my shoulders so whatever), but I also discourage holding anger inside. Find an outlet. Paint, go outside and scream your bloody head off, use your imagination to do dastardly things in your fantasy mind if it makes you feel better then have a chuckle, silly you…clean or tear a bunch of paper to shreds, meditate or do yoga, whatever floats your damn boat…but remember that you are HUMAN. And sometimes you just have to tell it like it is.
Once in a blue moon, i have had close encounters with (healthy!) loved ones involving heated debate/ exchange…My closest confidants over the years have had the balls to tell me the truth, calling me on my BS (now anyhow, at the time it sucked… but got me thinking). These are people who love me, who are supportive of me, and care deeply for my well being. EXPERIENCING freedom means not suppressing emotion. We can give into our (human) emotions, let them come, without suppressing them. Suppressing damages our cells. This is what causes heart attacks, heart disease, and a myriad of other health conditions. Get in touch with what you are feeling and let your true feelings flow in and through and out (the OUT part is really important when dealing with yucky feelings, and obviously, the opposite holds true for positive emotions, which in that case, the those good feelings in, let them linger for as long as you possibly can, let those positive feelings increase) Observe. If you have anger issues or excess/ unhealthy negativity, take this route, and instead of constantly stuffing, you will be freeing yourself from pain and illness. And you will feel so much lighter.
Life is precious. And so are you. Be free.
PP
PS. Doing daily yoga and or meditation WILL decreas excess and unnecessary anger “reactions”. But you still have a choice when difficult situations come up and sometimes expressing anger or dissatisfaction helps evoke change. It is just a form of energy so don’t be surprised when feelings come. Just pay attention to yourself. And choose your battles wisely, kiss and make up. Even regular mediators experience anger, whatever. But let’s just be honest, friends. Life is not always peaches and cream. Relationships are not always easy. And when we allow ourselves space to feel organic emotion, it not only disolves negativity…it magnifies the good stuff and makes literal space for positive vibrations. :)
